Memorializing Your Loved One
Memorializing a loved one is a universal human practice that spans cultures and the centuries. This is in keeping with two basic needs, the desire to remember, and to be remembered.
There is no right or wrong way to go about it. Honoring a loved one is an important part of the healing process and a very personal decision. Not every remembrance gesture has to be grand. It can be uncomplicated. It just needs to be the right choice for you.
In grief, rituals are an important part of the healing process. Rituals provide order to the chaos of grief. Part of the healing journey can be in finding a way to create a permanent memorial. This can be done in a number of ways, any of which are beneficial, and even vital, for good mental health. By having a special place to visit, a grieving person can achieve the peace of mind that comes from knowing that this special friend or relative will always be “nearby.” Many people choose garden memorials because they provide an opportunity to interact with the memory in a serene and beautiful setting.
Here are some memorial ideas:
- Write about your loved one. If you wish, share it in a way that feels right to you.
- Ask your loved one’s relatives, friends, or co-workers to contribute their favorite memories or photos, and use them to make a scrapbook or memory box.
- Cook your loved one’s favorite meal, participate in activities they liked, listen to music they enjoyed, or read a book that reminds you of them.
- Plant a tree in their memory. Hospice of the Foothills now offers Memorial Trees.
- If you can afford it, donate a park bench, or name a room or some equipment after your loved one. Hospice of the Foothills offers many such naming opportunities.
- Support people who are newly bereaved by supporting Hospice of the Foothills’ Grief Support program.
- Consider a decorative copper leaf engraved with their name on Hospice of the Foothills’ Memorial Wall, or Pave the Way brick, located in and around the serene and beautiful setting of Hospice of the Foothills’ Compassionate Care Home.
- Give a financial gift to support the work that Hospice of the Foothills is doing in honor of your loved one. There are many ways to do this; we will work with you to honor your loved one in whatever way you see fit to make the greatest impact.